Do you have a date coming up, and you’re freaking out? You can calm down because we’ve got your back! Going on a date with your crush can be nerve-racking. However, you don’t need to be a master flirt to win them over. Still, we’re here to tell you how to flirt if you want to rock that night out and secure a second date.
The Power of Touch
Simply saying you should touch your date isn’t particularly useful. So let us clear the air. We’re not talking about taking every chance possible to grope her or touch her inappropriately. We’re talking about light, gentle touches — something you should do gradually and casually like it’s not even a big deal.
Mastering this skill can be difficult, especially if you’re the shy kind of guy. Touching your date can make you nervous as well. We’re not going for that. We’re trying to make it look like it’s just a part of your natural body language. It’s how you move. It’s how you show you’re affectionate towards other people (but not overly affectionate).
These light strokes will let your date know what it’s like to be touched by you. So how do you do this? Gently touch her arm while you’re talking as if to draw her attention. Use every chance you can to hold her hand. Make it as if you were trying not to lose her while moving through a crowd.
You can come up with a million reasons to hold her hand, i.e., to read her palm. Make sure you’re not overdoing the touching though. Keep her wanting more. That’s exactly what you’re going for.
Do Not Over-Compliment
So you might think compliments are welcome — you’re right. However, be careful not to shower your special girl with them. Did you think that was a good thing to do? If so, it’s time someone gave you genuine dating advice.
Everyone likes compliments. They make us feel confident. However, overly complimenting someone can make those positive remarks seem fake. You don’t want her to see you as a liar. If you’re not sure how to keep compliments at a minimum (and genuine), here are a few ways to do it.
Compliment her when you meet. The key to being genuine is, of course, saying what you mean. Pick the thing about her you like the most and compliment it. It can be her outfit, hair, or a tiny detail she thought would go unnoticed.
After that, move on to subtler remarks. You may tell her she has a radiant smile. There’s no need to overdo it with words. She’ll know if you’re attracted to her.
Become a Natural Flirt
Becoming a natural flirt might seem difficult and even impossible for some men. However, we assure you that it’s not. It isn’t about reading a bunch of articles with flirting tips for men (because this is the only one you’ll need of course). It’s about entering a certain mindset that will make your playful side come out.
So what’s the right attitude to have? Be positive! If you keep imagining a negative outcome, it will only make you more nervous. That’s how you set yourself up for failure. Positive thoughts can help you be more confident and comfortable in your skin!
Here’s a pro tip — just assume your date already likes you. That’s why she’s on a date with you in the first place! No need to be arrogant though. You see, the key to success is finding balance. It all depends on you and what your date is like. Ease into the conversation and allow it to flow.
Give Your Date a Pet Name
There are a few tips and tricks concerning this step as well. Giving your date a pet name immediately can be a little tacky. It all depends on the pet name you come up with.
There are a few ways to test the waters first. Try to be cool about it and slip the pet name in the conversation casually. See how your date reacts to it. Maybe she’ll return the favor — you never know. If that happens, you can up your name game.
Pet names can also be something silly. Again, it depends on what your date is like. If she enjoys humor, give her a silly pet name. If she doesn’t seem to like them, however, you can try giving her one as a joke. She’ll probably end up warming up to it.
Be Confident
Last but not least — be confident! What does that mean? First, you need to believe in yourself — in the way you look, talk, and act. If you can manage that, you’re all set. You’ll no longer care about what flirting makes you look like. You won’t even be afraid of rejection!
This self-assurance means you’ll be bold enough to approach a woman even when she’s in a group of friends. As you’ll be a master flirt at this point, we guarantee that all of her friends will like you too.
However, there’s something vital to remember about this step — It’s important not to confuse confidence with arrogance. Nobody likes arrogant people, especially when they’re coming onto you. Those are the kind of people who just don’t know how to give up. They don’t accept rejection and can have tantrums when they see their advances failing.
So it’s important not to be that guy. Confidence is easy when you feel good about yourself. It’s normal to be insecure about stuff sometimes. However, you shouldn’t let those insecurities get to you while flirting with women.
When you feel good about yourself, everyone else will like you as well.
Summary
So what is your key takeaway from all of this? Flirting is probably easier than you’ve thought. Pay attention to them instead of focusing on your insecurities. Truly listen and get to know them if you want to seal the deal.
All you have to do is come across as someone genuinely interested in them. We’re sure you are! All flirting does is help you break the ice. Use it to your advantage.